ON GAY MARRIAGE

It would be so easy to blame gays for the erosion of family values. Everything would become so much clearer and simpler, and I could oppose their marriage agenda in good conscience. Unfortunately, while I seem to have reservations about homosexuality, I find that I do not have a problem with homosexuals; in my experience, they seem to have no less or more character than heterosexuals.
I cringe a little when I visualize what gays do sexually. I wonder if they cringe when they visualize the things I do? On one level, homosexuality seems so unnatural; on the other, it is clear that gays have been around at least as long as written history. Most gays when asked will say that they have been the way they are as long as they can remember. Why should I disbelieve them?
I’m not sure gay and lesbian couples should be in such a hurry to get married. Heterosexual couples are destroying the institution rapidly. Over half of heterosexual marriages end in divorce; many others barely survive infidelity and self absorption. There’s even a website now where married people who want to cheat can sign up.
The primary threats to family values are heterosexual divorce and the epidemic rise in fatherless homes. After that comes heterosexual promiscuity. Gay marriage poses little comparative risk.
Family values of are critical importance. Government cannot take the place of parents in child rearing and the instillation of values. Governments and villages cannot love children the way parents do. Families form the most basic, indispensible unit around which economic safety and responsibility can be built.
That being said, lets not put the erosion of family values off on gays. If we want to turn this process around, heterosexuals need to get married and stay married.
Some say we shouldn’t allow gays to marry because God is opposed to it. Maybe so. But neither do I think he comes down strongly in favor of divorce, fatherless children, or promiscuity in any form. I just can’t seem to find the moral high ground from which to deny these people.
My marriage is one of the biggest blessings of my life and I have a difficult time opposing giving gays and lesbians their shot. I’m not convinced they’ll muck it up any worse than heterosexuals have.